Pharaoh Herbal Tonic founder, HLN Marketing has delivered award winning marketing consulting, events and promotions to Fortune 500 health and wellness companies for the past 30 years. Through its work, it came across a product that had been developed to treat diabetes, blood pressure, and fatigue. A side effect was that it was a remarkable aphrodisiac.
As part of the agency’s well-being and mental health work, HLN learned that Americans were less happy today than they had ever been in history. Today, depression and anxiety touch more lives than ever before. The news we feed our minds is not healthy. We have been conditioned to see delusions as reality and inner peace is a distant concept that is not broadly promoted.
Our society often links success with wealth, greed, force, and selfishness. While the principles taught by many of our parents — love, sharing, compassion and forgiveness are designated to the weak. The resulting rise in societal anger, fear, and overall lack of happiness is ignored, rather than being viewed as a consequence of our priorities.
In his book, War and Sex: A Brief History of Men's Urge for Battle, John V. H., Dippel reveals how men have always fought not for their countries but to win the affections and defend the honor of women. Since the beginning of time, pleasing the opposite (or preferred) sex has been the primary goal of men. Research indicates that our society has taken the wrong approach, with men seeking to position themselves as invincible, rather than vulnerable beings seeking to comfort women and tune into the generational trauma most carry.
On the surface, it is usually the woman, who is ‘the penetrated one’ and thus the most vulnerable. Having a man push himself into a his mate’s most sacred and sensitive opening is about the most surrendered and yielding experience one can imagine. So it follows that since women are in the ‘receiving’ role sexually, and are also usually less physically strong than their male partners, the vulnerability is held by the women.
But it can be extremely vulnerable for men to be the ‘penetrator’ too. Today’s women bear the scars of past, male-dominated, unfeeling sexual experiences and it has only been very recently that the law and society’s moral compass has even acknowledged a woman’s right so say “No”. So the idea than men could be the vulnerable ones in love-making may sound puzzling at first. But for a man that is sensitive to the burden carried by women’s often negative expectations and the ever-felt sexual wounds of all mistreated women of the past, there is also a very unique and sensitive vulnerability.
Men carry the shame of their abusive, dominant forefathers and many no longer want this trauma in the bedroom.
Today, if you are a man with any degree of sensitivity, it is a vulnerable thing to penetrate a woman. You don’t want to abuse, trigger past trauma, or in any way misinterpret your partner’s wants or needs. The vulnerable man is waiting for a clear invitation. Once certain that the invitation is wholehearted and clear, he can allow the strength and masculinity to take over. Men want to escort their women to the door of light and help them dissolve into pure, orgasmic, sex. Men want to be ready to deliver passionate satisfaction that pleases and exceeds expectation. The vulnerable man delights in accepting satisfaction only after knowing that his partner has first been pleased.
A women’s vulnerability drives her man’s vulnerability. By melting into it together, past traumas can be healed with caring, compassionate, and selfless love-making.
This is the spirit on which Pharaoh and Sultan Herbal Tonics are being offered. When men are confident in their sexual appetite and stamina, they can present themselves as vulnerable beings, focused on pleasing their women first.
Sexual performance correlates highly with happiness among men 40+. When engaged in healthy and mutually satisfactory sexual relationships, men and women are generally happier. When happy, more time is spent experiencing positive, rather than negative emotions, including:
Inspiration
Amusement
Hope
Pride
Interest
Gratitude
This leads to greater confidence, increased productivity, and stronger relationships. Negative emotions (sadness, anger, anxiety, etc.) are natural and cannot be eliminated, but spending more time experiencing positive emotions will lead to an overall happier life for ourselves and those around us.
Good sex is an inseparable driver of our well-being and happiness. Those of us with vibrant and healthy sex lives report a better overall quality of life. Those engaged in balanced sexual relationships report higher satisfaction across life domains. (US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health, 2014)
In 2004, a British study showed sex makes people happier than money. Engaging in healthy sexual activities with a partner once a week created a happiness equivalent to an additional $50,000 in annual income. Being in a stable marriage with regular sexual activity boosted happiness even more—an equivalent of an additional $100,000 in annual income. On the other hand, divorce created the emotional equivalent to losing $66,000 in annual income. Research shows a high correlation between sexual satisfaction and marital satisfaction.